“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32)
By Steve Lieser
Several years ago, I had a frustrating encounter with a coworker. I scheduled a meeting with her but failed to clearly define its purpose or desired outcome. When the meeting began, my coworker, visibly frustrated, asked why we were even having it if there was no clear objective. Her tone rubbed me the wrong way, and I responded in an agitated manner. We both left that meeting frustrated and upset with each other.
Shortly after, I apologized to her for my response and tone. However, I still carried resentment in my heart. For years, I held onto that frustration. It wasn’t until I turned to God in prayer that he began to work on my heart. I asked him to help me truly forgive her, and over time, he did. As my heart softened, I began to see the lesson in that difficult moment.
Her feedback—though given in frustration—taught me something invaluable. I learned the importance of setting a clear purpose for meetings, having a desired outcome, and respecting people’s time. What once felt like a painful interaction turned into a valuable life lesson, one that has made me a much better leader.
Forgiveness is powerful. It not only frees us from the burden of past hurts but also gives us clarity to see the good in difficult situations. Through God’s grace, I now feel blessed by that interaction, rather than burdened by it. I am grateful for my coworker and for the wisdom God granted me through this experience. Let us always seek to forgive, for in doing so, we allow God to shape our hearts and reveal his greater purpose.
Pray
Soften my heart, Lord, and remind me to extend grace just as you have shown me grace. May your wisdom guide my actions, and may my words always reflect your love.
Reflect
Is there someone in your life whom you need to truly forgive, not just in words but in your heart? How can you invite God into that process?
Discuss
How has forgiveness—either given or received—helped you grow or see a difficult situation in a new light?
Steve Lieser has been part of a Minneapolis/St. Paul WorkLight Small Group for over five years. He leads the Hilltop Small Group and together they are hosting a Challenge Weekend in May.