“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
By Carol Lopez
When my mom was diagnosed the second time with breast cancer, I retired from a fulfilling career in education to become her full-time care provider. Two years later, my mom lost her battle and Jesus called her home.
Before retiring, I worked for a manager who was brilliant, innovative, and very successful. However, I learned very quickly that in order to thrive in the workplace, I had to forsake most of my own creative ideas. Over time, I became very resentful and withdrawn, but I never made my feelings known. When he retired, I silently rejoiced.
Now that my mom was gone, the tasks before me were insurmountable. I alone was responsible for clearing out her possessions and selling her house. I was afraid and wanted someone to tell me how to do this. I prayed relentlessly for guidance.
Then one night I was awakened from a deep sleep and the light of the Holy Spirit was before me. He imprinted within my heart that God loves my boss and I because we are his children. I had to forgive myself first for being an imperfect human. I realized that my boss was doing the best he knew how to do, so I needed to forgive him within my heart from a distance.
Over time, through deep prayer and communion with the Holy Spirit, I was able to let go of the past hurt and disappointments and sell my mom’s house. A new sense of freedom, healing, and empowerment was now my reality. And, most importantly, my relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ flourished.
Pray
Dear Lord, help us to open our hearts to complete forgiveness. Show us how to see the good in all things, forgive what is hurtful, and how to surrender the burden to you.
Reflect
Consider the scripture teaching Matthew 6:15 and reflect on, “But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Discuss
When the opportunity to forgive someone face to face no longer exists, what possible avenues or solutions can free you from the grip of unforgiveness?
Carol Lopez is a retired educator, member of the Fresno WorkLight Women’s Chapter and Service Council, and a member of WorkLight’s Editorial Team. She also volunteers as a Stephen Minister for her church.